Do you think he loves me? Questions that answers that...

Hello Reader, welcome to relationship matters here on chatwitholy. The last post we had here was on Anger Management.

Disclaimer; Do not be upset, if I tell you that he does not love you, but to save myself from trouble. Am going to point out some questions directly to you, so you can decide whether he does love you or not.

Today, everything is coming from my heart, I think this is the chance for me to speak on this. Among my friends and I, it’s usually a debate topic. It always start with “Do you think he likes me?”, me knowing where they are driving to. I add ‘But’. The conversation becomes some sort of analysis of his actions, words etc.

From my observations from my male friends, I have learnt that men are not hard to understand. They may not be good with emotions or verbal communication, but they quite often communicate well by their actions. (“actions speaks louder than words”). This is a fact.

So I met this lady and in an attempt to have a clean conversation we unexpectedly opened our love lives. In her account, she narrated how she met a young guy at a restaurant last year February and since then, they have been sleeping together for a year plus (1+), but the guy have not asked her out officially.

I just laughed knowing that the girl is so dumb (pardon me to use that word) and couldn’t discern that the man is not interested in her except for obvious reasons FUCKINGS. I told her plainly, he does not want you. Just exactly as i thought, she refuses to accept the truth but chose to dwell in her false mind.

Anyway, not every situation is the same, as some are unique in that some men are hard to read while others are not. If a man likes you, you will know. If he needs you for sex alone, trust yourself, you will know. For this reasons, I say to ladies, pay close attention to men you want. This post is for you all. Some of the questions that I will ask you are pretty common sense, you can figure it but sometimes, we need a reminder because we forget the commonest thing and so we end up selling ourselves so cheap.

One, does he want to know you more? Normally, he would want to but because there are no feelings attached, he doesn’t care to know more about you. This is because you made him feel so comfortable around you. i used to remind myself and my friends this ‘don’t sell yourself so cheap’. The more you seem easy to them the more they can get away easily. Play hard some times but  use your head in this.

Is he ashamed to show you off? He does not like you so he will never disclose to his friends your position in his love life. He never thought for one day to bring you home to his parents. He has never taken you out to one of his family occasions. Sister, you should be worried. Back off

He does not keep in touch with you, right? So, this lady of mine said something that I did not share with you guys earlier. She said “I love him but the problem with him is that, he hardly calls, I’m the one doing the calling, texting and whatsapping even when he is active online and hardly does he return my calls”. My opinion, the very basic sign is lacking. He must keep in touch with you no matter how busy his schedule is. If he never returns your calls for hours, days, weeks, months. The short of it is, he is not into you. No long stories.

How often does he laugh with you, or at your silly jokes? Even when you say the funniest thing, it seems odd to him because you are like a rag to him once he is done sexing you. Please disassociate from him, you are a nuisance to him.

Has he ever compliments you? Pause before you answer, for a sex addict, he would compliment you so to get you into his bed but if he is in love with you, he will compliment you beyond the physical like your smartness, kindness, honest etc if he doesn’t notice any of these aside your beauty. The man is not for you.

Has he impressed you? Think on this one, has he ever done something for you that’s so so so infact can’t find the right words to put. I don’t mean the gifts, weekend getaways but something so simple and special like watching your favorite movies or going to places he wouldn’t have loved to go but for you he did went.

Does he remember what you told him? If he loves you, he will remember every single thing you’ve told him. There are some things that I told my boo during our initial dates that I don’t even remember. He quotes me verbally in those things. Kinda romantic though. Does he do that? Or even remembered?

Does he avoid you? Have you ever visited his house without permission? What has been his reaction? Let me guess, you either been told by the security man that he is not around or he lies to you that he is on his way out. He finds every reason to distant himself away from you.

Assess your relationship with these questions, and determine where you stand. If sincerely your hearts tells you he does not love you. Please walk away, you deserve way better.

This post is for my ladies who are currently wondering “Does he love me?”.

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