Few days ago I learned of the
break up of a close friend, she is a friend and a colleague. It was confirmed
to me by her family. The devastating news didn’t only shock and sadden me, it
hit our circle of friends especially us who grew up together watching their
relationship like a big screen fairly tale love stories, hoping ours would be
like theirs. How sad? They made me love “love” deeply especially from my
girlfriend, she made me fantasize of an incredible handsome dude, that would
look like a magazine cover model who would ask me out on a date or a
relationship.
Infact, their break up highlights
the fact that there is always an end to every love story.
Happiness is very compatible with
relationship and mostly relationship can’t be bought with material things,
which brings to question what relationship means.
According to Oxford Dictionary,
Relationship is the way in which two or more people are connected, or the state
of being connected. So, what more important is your connection. The connection
you both have, how strong is it?
Sadly, this period, I’ve come
across many broken homes, friendship, relationships and marriages. Actually, it
seems that I’ve noticed more unhappy relationship than I ever have. This might
be because I have become sensitized to “successful Relationship-detector”.
However, what I have seem to notice more is not people who are naturally
unhappy with their relationship but people who have slipped into unhappy
relationship because of fear of being lonely, break-ups or status in life.
The reality is that being in a relationship
is sweet-tough. It like a coin toss in the air and lands on a table. Your
guess!!!
The success in a relationship is
up to you, your choice. Ultimately, while admittedly, being successful in a
relationship can be threaten or strengthened by the person you love, the people who love you back. It’s about your
state of mind-happiness and what you choose to do with it.
Like I heard, My friend’s
relationship has been suffering a turbulent fold for some years but she held on
hoping for the best. Most times people keep waiting for relationship to take a
new leaf. They say, “Let me give him/her more time, s/he will change”, “when we
marry, s/he will stop cheating”, “when I make more money, then I marry”, then,
what happens?
Look around, so many people are
into relationship, some casual, some serious, some on contract. What does this
prove? That relationship is deeper than external factors. It is about YOU and
your mind, internally. It will never happen if you don’t make it.
If you want to be in a successful
relationship, here is what to do.
Be
in a relationship and your
choice. Think about it, its all about you and no one else.
The long and short of all am
saying is I hate break ups, I did rather not be into a relationship than to be
in one and not willing to fight through to the end. In some cases the best
advice is to separate as in break up instead of torturing yourself in the
relationship the worse cases leads to death and suicide. Below are a couple of
my favorite quotes on relationships. That’s the gospel truth.
“ I believe that two
people are connected at the heart and it doesn’t matter what you do or who you
are or where you live. There are no boundaries or barriers if two people are
destined to be together” ~Julia Roberts
” “Every
couple needs to argue now and then. Just to prove that the relationship is
strong enough to survive. Long term relationship, the ones that matter are all
about weathering the peaks and the valleys. ~Nicholas Sparks
“Good relationships are
not about good times you share, they are about the obstacles you go through
together and the fact that you still say I LOVE YOU”. ~Unknown.
What’s your opinion on
relationship? Do you agree with me that is a conscious choice or is a coin
tossed #unpredictable. Mine is obvious.
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