Hello
reader, welcome back!! I know we had a great day. The weekend fever is off and
gearing to another one. Erm!! I did not get any response from our last chat, I
hope we enjoyed what we read. Are you visiting for the first time? Or you
missed my last chat, view it HERE. Please remember to drop your opinion on the
comment section below. Your views matters a lot…
So
you have seen Mr. Right, No, let me say it with the right emphasis, you have
seen the drop-dead, gorgeous so Right man. He may have popped the question and
you are almost done planning for the wedding or traditional wedding. Please
take your time and read this, but share with others.
We
all assume that we know what our marriage life will look like because we are so
in love, you are so in-love. Perhaps, you have been living with your partner
for like 1,2,3 years. You know his family and friends. You know his good and
bad sides as well. In all honesty, people change, so will you and partner. In
this case, you may never know what your marriage will turn out to be. Not to
scare you, but to assure you that you can’t for sure tell how things will
change in your marriage but you could al least know those areas where the
changes might occur.
As
your faithful blogger and friend I like to share with you things you should
know before you said “I DO”.
Adjusting to married life: This becomes very difficult but is
important you note this. This is the period you get to or learn to be alone
with your partner, no longer “me time” stuff. You get to attend occasions together
and travel together. On the other side it is a period you will learn to know
that you are living with a man full time. Seeing how he is different from home
can be very interesting. A friend once told me that when he met his wife, he
was drawn to her by her personality, but in marriage it was a different thing
from what he expects.
Do you know that there are
different seasons in marriage?
You thought you knew, but am not sure. We have newly wed season normally known
as honey moon phase, making babies’ seasons, and stress level at this season
increases but then how you manage it can either save or destroy your marriage.
It’s harder than it looks in marriage. Marriage is a great deal of work that
you and your partner must figure out how to make it a success
The
finance aspect was not neglected
too. How you and your partner manage your debt, do your budget and plan your
savings is very important. My married classmate in school then, used to tell me
that money is a very major issue in marriage because both couples involve are
completely different in how they deal with money.
Intimacy: You should absolutely throw yourself in.
you see in my last chat post I said something about “smelling each others hair
or arm” as fun and romantic..lol . In this case, when you live with someone on
a daily basis, you will realize that some things are not really pleasant and
comfortable such as the smell and others. But you just have to deal with it.
(Nnamdi, 38 and married for 5 years).
Communication: I met some men randomly chatting about
their marriage issues and one of them said he wished, he had known that trying
to change how his wife communicate was not necessary going to work long term.
Communication is very important in dealings whatsoever, so learn to communicate
effectively.
Everything else changes: from my observation, this happens in all
marriages. At some point in time, the roles each of you plays will definitely
change, some may switch roles. Learn to adapt when it comes.
Are
you married, got some tips to share with us. Please drop in. or you are single
and got some question, do ask.
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