SELF LOVE

Hey people, hope we had a good valentine moments and you were surrounded with vals it.**winks**

There was this photo that I uploaded on my whatsapp status that got several of my contacts chatting me up. Asking me all sort of questions like, are you single? I thought you were dating that guy? Don’t tell me you are alone this Wednesday bla bla bla. This prompted me to write this post on “SELF LOVE”. A few years ago, it would have been a big deal for me on valentines as I would be expecting the unexpected; such as gifts, surprises, a getaway, proposal, cuddling, you know….,I know…, we all know what happens.

So for those not in relationship, there were no expectations, it feels lonely, it is lonely. Worst case scenario it feels like they are in rejection phase/world where nobody sees them. It can’t be that way.

Earlier in the year I’ve being working on becoming a better Me. So instead of expecting from people I gave myself a treat. Who says you can’t? Trust me is fun. For the introverts like moi, I was in bed all through after breakfast and showering occupying myself with some series on my phone, coupled with a bottle of chilled coke. A got a cup cake for myself a day before, so that’s basically junk feeding for the day and my dinner ends with domino pizza. In-between my movies and drinks I went for pedicure and manicure, I could have had a massage but I saved it as a reward for future baits.

You know, loving yourself first actually brings people to love you know matter what. Is an effort I made and that made me realized my worth in any relationship; Among my colleagues, church members, family, intimate relationship, I know what I deserve, when to stand up for myself, when to be patient and when to walk away. It wasn’t easy for me but it was a conscious and daily effort I made.

There were times I messed up – in personal decisions, relationship, finances, and career. I bring myself to isolation. I felt I need no change. I sub-consciously told myself am never going to improve. But when people hurt me and try to apologize I forgave them. Though most times not immediately but with persistent apologies I surly forgive. So I come to ask myself why not me? Why can’t I forgive myself? How much do I hate myself? I failed, you fail, she failed, he fails everybody fails at  one point or the other. But is Ok. I love Me!!, I care about my feelings too. I forgave myself for all the wrongs and I kept forgiving till date.

This led me to  Love Me. I say that every morning with all audacity, claim and affection and I meant it. Even as I type now I love Me. I love myself.

Loving myself put me first. If it was like middle 2017, I can say I love sacrifices, I put other people before me. Is not bad, there’s  nothing wrong with that but  constantly doing that means other people matter most to you than yourself. I tell myself every day. I matter as other people matter too. I tell my friends, always reevaluate where you place your energies, interest, strength if it does not bring you good  it does not worth it….i know you might think otherwise, but let’s see it this way, if sacrificing for the other cause me so much pain. Literally, I hate myself. You don’t have to hate yourself, I don’t have to either so I choose my sacrifices carefully.

Re-evaluating myself makes me recognize my strength and weakness. I appreciate them as they are. The very moment I knew my strength in my department I raised my standard and ever since then I receive better. You know the moment you believe you deserve better, you receive better. You can try that at work, in your family, with your spouse and watch the reciprocates. It’s amazing.

So with Boo or no Boo, celebrate love, feel loved. Cos until you love yourself no one will. 

…..TO BE CONT….

Am still in the spirit of valentine. Loving myself  always. I hope to hear from you all soon.

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HAPPY VALENTINE WEEKEND….