WHEN TO DRAW THE LINES

Even though my commitment to his blog is abit rocky, I will continue to stay in shock at the number of mails I received towards my previous posts on this blog. Is amazing guys, is really amazing when you someone you don’t know shows appreciation and concern to your effort.

I have an egg stew that I prepared in less than 30mins for yam, is not just quick, its yummy, the egg sauce is bae, you know when you don’t put efforts in things and it turns out to be wow. It was fun enjoying the meal with some friends, its better that eat alone and die alone, so eating, chatting and gossiping nothing was restricted in our cycle so we bounced on the the topic “ when to draw the lines” the entire gist became an emotional thing, people go through so I decided to select some points and share.

Relationship can be messy or rocky

Yes, there are few sacrifices and adjustment you might have to make in the process is not a bad thing. Women naturally are experts at adjustment. Sadly they are the cause many relationship fails too. While compromise is okay you must know where to draw the lines, not just about women both men. I suggested some rules you hold while you keep the relationship alive.

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.    1.Be yourself: is normal to start liking football as a lady or like a telenovella as a man but if s/he constantly complains about your weight, make up, styles etc I guess s/he needs to be with someone else. Take it from me a partner that expects you to change who you are is not worth you at all. If s/he loves you, s/he will love you for  who you are. My bf years ago used to  tell me “ baby I love you now that you are slim and even when you become fat please be yourself”.

 2.   When to give up: No matter how rich or love you have for him or her, sometimes relationships are just not meant to be. So if you at some time feel you are working yourself up to maintain or going extra mile to keep up. It’s time to give up. Am not saying don’t work things out but know when you are becoming a doormat. If you have done everything but it does not work, quit leaving in a dream world. I can only suggest you give your relationship time 1month to 3months to work things out.  However, if it does not turn positively, Please, back off (is not going to be easy but it will worth at the end)

3.   Live your life: Is important to have your life to yourself not solely dependent on your partner. Do what you love, go for the job you dreamt of, save your money follow your dreams. These makes you a more independent and likable person.

4.   The “No” attitude: Is not overly a good thing personally, but remember the topic is actually about “when to draw lines”. So knowing where, when and how to say the “No” is important. Let me use the women for an instance, many women engage in sexual activity even when they are not up for it. There reason is for “fear” of losing their partner. I suggest taking things slowly, do not be afraid of telling your partner you are not yet ready.

   So that’s it…what do you think? Drop your suggestions on the comments section. I will be delighted to read and respond. Lets have some chats

On a lighter note, I like amebo, I read some days back on one of the popular blogs in Africa “ Linda ikeji’s blog” that our very own Actress and first time mom Tonto Dike  is the first owner of  LEXUS LX 570 2017 model. In this recession period my God is in control. Picture below…

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