HOW TO BE AN ADULT AT WORK

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Hi readers, the good news about today is? It’s finally Friday and the better news is I have written an interesting article for you. It seems slow publishing here but I publish anyways, like they say “slow and steady win the race”.

During the past few weeks, I have encountered so many things at work and it got me thinking of HOW TO BE AN ADULT AT WORK. Most times I think I have it all together. I usually think I can compose myself under pressure, i thought I can handle may projects at same time. But then somethings happen.

Some days I come to work and encounter annoying patients/clients or colleagues, a mistake on my work, company policies that may make us act a bit out of elements. You will understand if you’ve worked in a private organization.

Hence I make it a reminder to me and some of us of what it means to be an adult at work.  An adult means being responsible. It means being mature to the core. Any other thing outside this could cost you your reputation, promotion or even your job. Some of the things I might mention may sound basic but trust me little things we do contributes to how people treat us or perceive us and it might be the fire that pushes our career.

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Being Punctual at all  time in any occasion be it, the office, meeting, church, presentation is expected from a person who calls him or her self an adult. And dressing appropriately, speaks well of you.  

Any reasonable adult performs their duties without  being told. This shouldn’t be said but I have to say it anyways, some people know what to do but they don’t do it. Simply because they felt “they cannot come and kill themselves” probably the expected promotion or increase in their salary and is not coming. Nevertheless you were employed to do a job. As a responsible and mature adult you’ll do your job and do it well.

And while we are on this, respecting your colleague is very important and makes appear like a confident adult. Be kind, honest and patient with your colleague. Gossip flies like fire at workplace, try to avoid them. You work with different people and trust me, they can help you someway in life hence cultivate a good and better relationship with them.

Personally I can complain for Africa, however I don’t overdo it. Listen there are some days I feel used at work, there are times I don’t even do what I enjoy but I take those moments as waves. For some reasons I feel I will get my reward soon. Not necessary from same organization, but I have a feeling God is working on me for a better tomorrow.

A mature adult is always open for new opportunities, infact my kind of job has taught me to keep an open mind, anything can happen, people change, policies change, interest change. Allow things to surprise you. And leverage in it. And if they are not,  be good with moving on. Change is constant. When it happens, don’t let them get down to you (easier said than do) okay wallow in it abit but not for so long then, dust yourself up and move forward. See things in positive angles like bad moments are meant to make you wiser and stronger.

An adult knows him/herself, an adult knows when to stop and when to move. When to say yes and when to say no.

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And last but not the least, being an adult does not make you shy away from confrontations. Conflicts and confrontations are inevitable at work. For HR’s –firing a worker; for the rest of us we deal with office drama, challenging bosses and rules, being caught in-between two colleagues among others. Instead of using avoidance, be an adult and accept them. Learn how to give tough feedback and receive them too. It is in those tough moments that the an adult is being tested and of course trusted in the office. I must say I fail in this but I have admired my friends who had shown more maturity in this accept and they have my respect of on this.

I hope you learned and agreed with me on one or two things I mentioned. If you have more to say please feel to drop them at the comment section.

Have a wonderful weekend and stay blessed.

WHY BE A PRINCESS WHEN YOU CAN BE A QUEEN

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Hello reader,

Here is a little inspiration from the tittle above.

When I was younger I’ve always dreamt to be a princess. So when I get the chance to shop for myself, I like to pick princess like stuffs, I love Barbie dresses, even till now I love wearing my hair in ponytail. I envisioned my wedding to be theme “princess Oly” weds….until I read the above captioned “Why be a princess when you can be a Queen”.

The inspiration behind this is you need to aim for the highest, the first, the best. Princesses of all times were being protected away for dangers and the world hence, they have limited knowledge of what the world has to offer. None of these women really had the chance to figure out what they really need talkless of discovering themselves.

The Queen on the other hand, owns the castle and runs the kingdom, her eyes goes beyond the walls. You know what they say, when you see it all you have it all. She knows that not all that glitters are gold.

Be the Queen that is aware enough of the world around her to guide her on what she wants from it rather than settling on what is available.

Have a lovely weekend.

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HAPPY MOTHERS DAY

Happy Sunday Everyone and to all mothers all over the world, I say happy mother’s day.

Today is the day we celebrate all mothers however, I say every mother should be celebrated daily. Being a mother is not easy although, from what I’ve heard is the one beautiful feelings one ever had in life. I work in hospital and for that reason I’m always around pregnant patients whom I know that their bodies and  feelings, changes immediately a fetus starts to develop. To think is only for 9months, I must say you are in for a long ride, cos after 9months, you’re to stick for a life time.

The same is for 1^st 2^nd 3^rd 4^th and 5^th child you may choose to have. Is taskfull, very sacrificial  most importantly, very satisfying.

I deliberately make sure I call my mom every day no matter how tired I feel after work cos after all, she has done so much for me all these years, though am not where I want to be. Yet, I must give her all I have and that includes my time.

She is noble enough to carry me in here womb for 9months without aborting me. She did give up a youthful figure to ensure that I’m in existence. My existence made her rearrange her schedules and priorities. Always up while others are asleep to feed me and put me to sleep. She knew me before I even knew myself. Even as am older, I still seeks her wisdom when am confused. She is my backbone, my first friend, her happiness lifts my mood .  Is an unconditional love.

I will always love her.

So to mine and yours HAPPY MOTHERS DAY!!!

SELF LOVE PART 2

Hello lovely people, welcome back here right on this blogspot. I hope your days in this week went well and as planned. Did you read my previous post? Did you enjoy it? Still have not read it, what have you being doing? Chatwitholy is back, I will be creating juicy content that might interest us. I look forward to having a conversation with you all. But today I want to encourage us.

Continuation of my previous post…

Smile Jesus loves you….,even if you don’t feel it;) your path is not set on stone and where you’ve been does not determine how far you can go. The only place that will determine your tenacity and destination is your now moment.

Whatever that happened, is behind you. You don’t look. I mean it don’t try remembering it, especially if it contains all the negative experience you had over the week/s. it doesn’t matter anymore. What matters is NOW, this moment you are in. So I encourage you relax your shoulders.

Slowly inhale

Then exhale gently.

Try fallen in love with yourself. It feels good. I know it cos am there right now. I am my number one fan.  I don’t know you but you know yourself, so be your number fan and others will follow suit. Being your number one fan will make you want more of you, you will control what revolves around you. You will begin to have a strong desire to make yourself happy. Your time and energies becomes extremely valuable and priceless and you will become choosey with whom and where to invest your precious time and energy.

Like S.mcnutt says “The law of attraction wants to reward you. You have to believe that you are worthy of love, success, healing and happiness today so that the universe can reward you with those things in your near future.” In essences your energy is contagious, how you treat yourself, love and care for yourself will determine how you grow and what you will receive from people.

Dear Me and You or I would rather say Dear Us,

Life is too short and fast to dwell on negativity and short comes. Understand that mistakes are okay and normal no one is above it. The bible even confirms that no one is perfect except God. Remember that you are you and I am Me. We are unique human being living on earth. Just know that you have a voice and you  too can be heard. Remember, there is power in your tongue. Do what pleases you but remember you are answerable to only one person that is GOD. Speak to yourself that way you would want others to do cos the way you speak to yourself matters the most. 

You are irreplaceable and so am i. Hold true to your standards by reminding yourself that trash is literally everywhere and treasures is hard to find.

I want you to know that you are all that you will ever need and that everything you will ever need is in you. As you made yourself your priority by loving yourself first. Whenever you feel somehow or down, remember that you were beautifully and wonderfully made. Look in the mirror and affirm that.

Stick to the things that brings you joy and excites you most happy weekend guys.

KEYNOTE: Whenever i’m rejected or feel rejected at some point in life, this is what I do. I tell myself I’m a treasure, find me you are lucky and blessed, if you don’t too bad for you.

Don’t sell yourself short guys, love yourself and have fun.

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Thanks for stopping by

SELF LOVE

Hey people, hope we had a good valentine moments and you were surrounded with vals it.**winks**

There was this photo that I uploaded on my whatsapp status that got several of my contacts chatting me up. Asking me all sort of questions like, are you single? I thought you were dating that guy? Don’t tell me you are alone this Wednesday bla bla bla. This prompted me to write this post on “SELF LOVE”. A few years ago, it would have been a big deal for me on valentines as I would be expecting the unexpected; such as gifts, surprises, a getaway, proposal, cuddling, you know….,I know…, we all know what happens.

So for those not in relationship, there were no expectations, it feels lonely, it is lonely. Worst case scenario it feels like they are in rejection phase/world where nobody sees them. It can’t be that way.

Earlier in the year I’ve being working on becoming a better Me. So instead of expecting from people I gave myself a treat. Who says you can’t? Trust me is fun. For the introverts like moi, I was in bed all through after breakfast and showering occupying myself with some series on my phone, coupled with a bottle of chilled coke. A got a cup cake for myself a day before, so that’s basically junk feeding for the day and my dinner ends with domino pizza. In-between my movies and drinks I went for pedicure and manicure, I could have had a massage but I saved it as a reward for future baits.

You know, loving yourself first actually brings people to love you know matter what. Is an effort I made and that made me realized my worth in any relationship; Among my colleagues, church members, family, intimate relationship, I know what I deserve, when to stand up for myself, when to be patient and when to walk away. It wasn’t easy for me but it was a conscious and daily effort I made.

There were times I messed up – in personal decisions, relationship, finances, and career. I bring myself to isolation. I felt I need no change. I sub-consciously told myself am never going to improve. But when people hurt me and try to apologize I forgave them. Though most times not immediately but with persistent apologies I surly forgive. So I come to ask myself why not me? Why can’t I forgive myself? How much do I hate myself? I failed, you fail, she failed, he fails everybody fails at  one point or the other. But is Ok. I love Me!!, I care about my feelings too. I forgave myself for all the wrongs and I kept forgiving till date.

This led me to  Love Me. I say that every morning with all audacity, claim and affection and I meant it. Even as I type now I love Me. I love myself.

Loving myself put me first. If it was like middle 2017, I can say I love sacrifices, I put other people before me. Is not bad, there’s  nothing wrong with that but  constantly doing that means other people matter most to you than yourself. I tell myself every day. I matter as other people matter too. I tell my friends, always reevaluate where you place your energies, interest, strength if it does not bring you good  it does not worth it….i know you might think otherwise, but let’s see it this way, if sacrificing for the other cause me so much pain. Literally, I hate myself. You don’t have to hate yourself, I don’t have to either so I choose my sacrifices carefully.

Re-evaluating myself makes me recognize my strength and weakness. I appreciate them as they are. The very moment I knew my strength in my department I raised my standard and ever since then I receive better. You know the moment you believe you deserve better, you receive better. You can try that at work, in your family, with your spouse and watch the reciprocates. It’s amazing.

So with Boo or no Boo, celebrate love, feel loved. Cos until you love yourself no one will. 

…..TO BE CONT….

Am still in the spirit of valentine. Loving myself  always. I hope to hear from you all soon.

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Like I said I will in the previous post, I will improve my  blog post.

Only one person dropped a comment and does not need the 5k but I saw that hundreds reading the post. 

I  like to read your comments guys. Have a productive weekend

HAPPY VALENTINE WEEKEND….

Happy 2018 Guys

I never thought I will visit my blog again, till last year. I was applying for a job for a content developer and they requested for any published articles I might have worked on. I didn’t have one so I remembered I used to blog, so I challenged myself that this year 2018, I will work on my blog, hopefully I will be able to write 1000 articles. Ideally, it was my way on starting a new year resolution. I am telling myself here that I will use every opportunity I have to create content on this blog.

It’s going to look awkward to start a gist I don’t even know if your guys will be interested. But you all know my blog is all about ‘relationship and issues around it’. So I will start by asking ….hope you had an amazing Christmas and New Year celebration? 

Since I am resuming blogging I just want to dash one person N5000 for pizza. Please only one person.

You can be the person by telling me why I am not a fit to be a blogger.

You can drop your comments in the comment sections. 

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HOW TO FIND A PERFECT MATCH?

Sure you are probably rolling your eyes as in this blogger wanna be won’t update anytime soon. Well am just trying to cook up a full gist soon and get it published. Meanwhile, can we suggest how we can help a friend find a perfect match.

To singles out there, they have problems finding their match, on one hand they are tired of making a bed for one and on the other, they are tired of horrible dates. They clearly need help and so I need suggestions.

I will start by saying from my experience; I have 4 signs to find a perfect match...

1.     Your partner will inspire you to be a better person

2.   You don’t get tired of each other

3.   When they make goal they make goals with you in mind

4.   Your partner always makes your heart jump

Do you have suggestions?  Drop them in comment sections below I love to read am sure my friends do too.